Attitude is an Art:  3 Happiness Habits

By Amy Dauphinee, Contributing Editor


Imagine.... landing your dream job, winning the lottery, marrying the perfect partner.  Life is smiling at you; a super chef's just served up a hearty helping of lifetime happiness.

But, just a second...

Not according to the latest happiness research.  Apparently we're notoriously misguided - and misled by advertising - when it comes to understanding what makes us truly happy.

The problem is that once we attain or achieve something the goalposts change and we're back in the same cycle.

It turns out that personal happiness has more to do with your mindset, and what you choose to focus on, than external events.  Once we have enough money to ensure our basic needs are met, attitude and gratitude trump events and circumstances in the long term.

"Research shows that what we think will make us happy actually doesn't.  Eventually temporary pleasures wane, leaving us with even further discomfort," cautions happiness coach Bob Molavi.  He counsels his clients to go deeper within, including putting attention on our unique purpose and replacing conditioned thoughts with empowering ones.

Positive-psychology pundit and Harvard researcher, Sean Achor, demonstrated that certain habits, when practiced daily, increase personal happiness scores by rewiring neural circuitry.  The brain also starts scanning its environment for opportunity.

And people are listening:  His enormously popular Ted Talk, The Happy Secret to Better Work, has over 10 million views.

Achor points out some pretty impressive facts attributed to the happiness advantage:  a 31% increase in productivity, your 40% more likely to be promoted, and markedly improved problem-solving abilities.

Who wouldn't want a more optimistic mind?

According to Achor, you're only 28 days from a happier you if you practice these three habits on a daily basis:

  1. Write down three new things you are grateful for.  (Yes, three new ones every day.)
  2. Meditate for two minutes.  (That's right, just two minutes is all it takes!)
  3. Praise someone.  (It can be face-to-face, phone call, text or email.)

The good news is that we have more control over our happiness than we realize.  Now that's a happy thought!

Thank you Amy for this insightful article.